Yes! Everyone has something to teach you. Each person we ever encounter has some kind of impact on us. I firmly believe, that we are a sum of the people we come across in life. Like a sponge, we absorb qualities, habits, lessons or even just memories from each meeting that goes into the ‘making of us’.
Of course, now there are some, who have a lasting impact on us. They mold you for the better or worse. Some build you up and some break you down. Some just observe you and you realize that even that affected you in someway (I don’t know! Maybe it just made you more aware of your actions). Even the ones who criticize and judge you teach you to not pay attention to the haters. They make you bullet-proof.
Your colleagues affect your work; your friends and family lead your personal life; your seniors and role-models inspire you to do better; the less fortunate than us incite empathy; a stranger on a bus also makes you wonder. A smile from an acquaintance, an unexpected letter from an old friend, an interesting conversation with someone all have the capability to lead us on different paths, yet it all comes together as one glorious life, well-lived.
“In your life, you meet people. Some you never think about again. Some, you wonder what happened to them. There are some that you wonder if they ever think about you. And then there are some you wish you never had to think about again. But you do.” – C.S. Lewis
My point being, that how we turn out to be is a consequence of every single thing that has happened and the choices that we made in light of them. And they make you the person you are today: strong, real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful, worn-down but not defeated, like a flower after the storm – torn yet fresh and full of beauty!
Now, you consciously change for some, while for others it just happens (and these are the people worth keeping around!). Someone who never forces you to change but inspires you to do so.
As the famous line from Spider-Man goes:
“The great thing about MJ is, when you look in her eyes and she’s looking back in yours… everything… feels… not quite normal. Because you feel stronger and weaker at the same time. You feel excited and at the same time, terrified. The truth is… you don’t know what you feel except you know what kind of man you want to be”.
This impact does not end with real people either. Even the characters in the books we read and the movies we watch become a part of us. They help us along by either instigating our thoughts or just giving a much-needed escape.
And finally, that maybe, when the velvet ropes come down, in life, in our final walk, maybe everyone; real or fictional will be there, bidding us farewell and luck for the journey to follow.
… for in the end…
There are certain people that’ll inhibit a small, quiet space inside your heart despite any circumstances. They left a piece of themselves when your souls collided upon impact. And there they’ll always remain. – Victoria Erickson.